We Must Fight to Keep Our Focus

Just like the little boy in the shopping cart, peering through the trees to see Jesus, we too must fight to keep our focus through the busyness of the season.
Just like the little boy in the shopping cart, peering through the trees to see Jesus, we too must fight to keep our focus through the busyness of the season.

As I rummaged through the box, I was quickly reminded something I had forgotten since I put things away the previous year. In my frustration, I threw out several strands of lights when I took the decorations down after Christmas. I would not be able to take advantage of the warm and sunny Thanksgiving afternoon to finish decorating my shrubs.

I went back inside to squeeze in a board game with my family before getting started on the noodles and mashed potatoes for our big gathering that evening. I would have to watch my time because all the dishes would have to be hand-washed. It was earlier that morning that the water dripping from the basement ceiling brought to our attention that the seal on the dishwasher had broken. Sigh.

That is how I found myself at the store on a Black Friday. It wasn’t to find the deals. I had done that one year, and one year only. It was one of the scariest times of my life, and I decided at that time, that there was no deal worth the crowd, rudeness and chaos that I had encountered. I vowed to never again set foot in a store the day after Thanksgiving.

No. Rather than venturing out to catch the sales, I found myself shopping on a Black Friday because we needed to fix the seal on the dishwasher, and I wanted to finish the lights outside before it got too cold again. At least it was late afternoon by the time we arrived. However, the store was still pretty busy.

My husband and I parted ways once inside. We had just returned to town after a 6-hour trip of driving our son and daughter-in-law to the airport and meeting another son for lunch at the half-way point. We were both physically and mentally exhausted, and I knew that I had better find what I needed quickly because my husband would not want to be in there long.

I was maneuvering my way through the crowded section of Christmas decorations and trying my best to hurry and not get distracted by all the things I didn’t need. Suddenly, above all the chatter of nearby shoppers and the Christmas music playing in the background, I heard a sweet little voice, “I want to see Jesus.” The voice that had grabbed my attention got louder, “Daddy! I just want to go see Jesus! Daddy, please!”

I peered across the Christmas light section and into the display of trees. There I saw a little boy standing in the back of a shopping cart and pointing towards a nativity set nestled among the Christmas trees and fluffy artificial snow.

His dad was not amused with the interruption; he didn’t seem to be enjoying his time looking through all trees with his wife and trying to decide which one to purchase. He finally gave in to his son’s persistence and pushed the cart over to Mary, Joseph and Baby Jesus while muttering something not quite holy in his exasperation.

Oh, to always have the heart of that little boy who was searching through the crowd and through the forest of trees just trying to get a glimpse at Jesus. We get distracted by our long shopping and to do lists, the sea of bleary-eyed shoppers, mounds of packages to wrap and overloaded schedules. We can get so busy during the holiday season that we forget the true reason we are celebrating Christmas in the first place.

Just like that little boy in the shopping cart, we must fight to keep our focus on the beautiful face of Jesus. We can’t let the trees, the lights, the shopping, the wrapping, the baking, the cleaning, the programs and parties block our view of the One who was born to save us.

Our Christmas traditions that have developed since the birth of Jesus can be ways for us to express His love to others. The lights remind us of the Light that dispelled the darkness of the world. Christmas programs and parties can be ways to celebrate Jesus’ birth, and we can give to others because of the love of Christ that rules in our hearts. We just need to make sure that in the busyness of our Christmas preparations and festivities, we don’t lose sight of the fact that we are doing these things as a way to bring glory to Jesus, Greatest Gift of all.

Life is going to start getting really busy for many of us as we head into the Christmas season. Let’s remember the example of the sweet little boy in the shopping cart and start each morning by crying out to our Daddy in heaven, “Daddy, I want to see Jesus! Help me to see Him through the trees, through the crowded stores and through my never-ending to do list today. Let me not lose sight of the reason we celebrate Christmas. Let me unwrap the gift of each new day You bless me with. Help me to find a way to tell those around me the good news that the angel proclaimed long ago when in the town of David a Savior had been born (Luke 2). Compel me share with others the message that ‘God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life’ (John 3:16). Enable me be bold to proclaim that ‘If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved’ (Romans 10:9). Prepare the hearts of those around me to respond to your invitation as so many did when Peter urged, ‘Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit’ (Acts 2:38). Give me opportunities to share your love and truth to others so that they too can find salvation, hope and peace in Him. Let me not take for granted the sacrifice that Jesus made for me when He surrendered His life to your will, but help me also to surrender my own life to You.”

We must fight to keep our focus on the One who is the reason we celebrate Christmas
We must fight to keep our focus on the One who is the reason we celebrate Christmas

What Am I Thankful For This Thanksgiving?

What am I thankful for?
What am I thankful for?

“What am I thankful for?” my daughter doodled on a spiral notebook page at a Thanksgiving dinner. Each of us were to take a moment to answer the question.

I have been pondering on that question again this week. What am I thankful for? The list could go on and on.

I am thankful this week that my son and daughter-in-law who live over 1000 miles away were able to afford flying home for the week. I am thankful that they still want to come home to visit and that we have room for them to stay. I am thankful that when I told my boss that I was going to take Tuesday off to spend the day with my kids, he asked, “Aren’t you going to take Wednesday as well? You don’t get to see them much.”

I am thankful that all of our children and their significant others were able to join us for dinner on Saturday night even though they all have very busy lives and only one of them lives in town now. Not only did I enjoy seeing all 10 of us squeeze around the table, I loved hearing them joke, laugh and catch up with each other. Despite the distance between our homes, our hearts remain close.

I am thankful for the plans we have tomorrow. It has become tradition for us all to cram down into the basement to eat breakfast and watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade in our pajamas. One of the boys has been anxious for “the one time a year we get to eat monkey bread.” I used to get up and watch the parade alone because none of them wanted to get out of bed, but now that we don’t see each other as often and now that we have added more ladies into the family, this has become one of our favorite traditions.

I am thankful that my sister is hosting Thanksgiving dinner this year, and that my parents, my children, my siblings, nieces and nephews will all be together to enjoy each other’s company while stuffing our bellies. The conversations will be good, there will be plenty of hugs, and I’m sure we will have way more than enough food.

What am I thankful for? I am thankful for so many people. I am definitely thankful for family and that we are all able to be together again this Thanksgiving. I am also thankful for all of my friends and for their support, encouragement and prayers. I am thankful for good neighbors, teachers, doctors and dentists. I am thankful for the policemen, firemen, and armed servicemen who risk their lives to protect us.

I am thankful to live in the United States of America. I am thankful that we have freedom of speech, freedom of religion and the right to bear arms. I am thankful to live in a country with so many job opportunities. I am thankful not only for all of the agencies we have in place to help those who are struggling but also thankful that there are so many citizens in our country who are willing to assist those in need and help them get back on their feet when they fall.

I am thankful for my home, my vehicle, a heater that works, indoor plumbing, clean water, a dishwasher, refrigerator, freezer, oven, microwave, washer and dryer. My house may need a lot of repairs, and not all of my appliances work perfectly, but some people do not have these blessings at all.

I am thankful for each day that I wake up. I am thankful for the medication that helps me breathe and for the eye glasses that help me see. I am thankful that I can hear, that I can talk and that I can walk.

I am thankful that though I am becoming more forgetful, I still have many wonderful memories. I am thankful not only for the good times but also for the difficult times because it is through the difficult times that I have learned and grown. I am thankful that in those trying times, God is teaching me to have a heart that can give thanks in all circumstances.

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“Give Thanks in All Circumstances” print & greeting card available at Every Season Creations on Etsy

I am thankful most of all for God. I am thankful that we have His very words to us written down in the Bible. I am thankful for His love, mercy and grace that He extends to me even though I don’t deserve it. I am thankful for His Son, Jesus, who He sent to die in my place. I am overwhelmed by His sacrifice and forever indebted to Him. I am thankful that through Jesus, my sins have been forgiven and my relationship with God has been restored. I am thankful that I can go to God in prayer knowing that He is listening and that He will respond. I am thankful that He has filled me with His Holy Spirit who blesses me with discernment, counsel, guidance, wisdom, strength, courage, comfort, peace and absolutely everything I need to live the life that God has called me to.

I am thankful that in Jesus, my life has purpose. Though God doesn’t need my help, I am thankful that He allows me to join in His work and witness lives being saved and transformed for eternity. I am thankful that God can take a mess like me and work in me, through me and around me to accomplish His will. I am thankful to know that despite my shortcomings, God isn’t finished with me yet. I am thankful that “He who began a good work within me, will continue His work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”

I am thankful that whether I die or whether He returns, whichever comes first, I have the assurance that He will take me home to live with Him forever in heaven where there will be no more tears, death, mourning, crying or pain. I am thankful that between now and then, whatever life throws my way, He will be with me through it all and that He will see me through to the end.

What am I thankful for this Thanksgiving? I am thankful for far too many things to list. I pray that you too will take time to think about all that you are thankful for, that you too will find that you are thankful for far too many things to list and that you too will realize that Jesus is your greatest blessing of all and that you have found life abundant in Him. I pray that if you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, you will boldly step forward in faith and find true peace and satisfaction in your decision to accept Him as your Lord and Savior.

What am I thankful for?
What am I thankful for?

What is Your Heart’s Desire?

What is Your Heart's Desire?
What is Your Heart’s Desire?

My family loves the “Pirates of the Caribbean” movies, and one of our favorite characters is a quirky pirate named Captain Jack Sparrow. Jack is an opportunist who always seems to come out on top despite being called, “the worst pirate I’ve ever heard of” by Admiral James Norrington.

One of Jack’s most prized possessions is his compass that doesn’t point north. Most people consider the compass broken and worthless, but Jack finds it of great value. For instead of pointing north, the compass points the way to whatever its owner wants most in this world. When Jack sets out to find a person, a place or a treasure, he simply pulls out the compass which points him in the right direction.

Navigating with this compass that doesn’t point north works well for Jack until the day that he sets off in search of the key to the “Dead Man’s Chest” which holds the heart of Davy Jones. When he holds up the compass, it spins out of control.

The crew notices Jack’s strange behavior that follows and believes that “something’s got Jack vexed.” The soothsayer, Tia Dalma, suggests that Jack does not know what he really wants or that he knows but is reluctant to claim it for his own.

In another “Pirates of the Caribbean” scene, Jack hands the compass to Elizabeth Swann who wants to find and rescue her love, Will Turner. Jack convinces Elizabeth that in order to find Will, she needs to reach the same destination that he is seeking. When Elizabeth follows her desire with the compass in hand, Jack is set back on course. However, throughout the voyage, when Elizabeth checks the compass, she find the compass pointing back to Jack. This again questions the true desire of the person holding the compass.

This reminds me of how we too can sometimes become confused about our desires and what we truly want or need. There are times when we think we want one thing, but after acquiring it, we find that it wasn’t really what our heart was longing for. We are left as empty as ever.

The human heart can have many desires as there are many things on earth that bring us pleasure. Many of these things were actually given to us by God. However, there is nothing on this earth that can completely satisfy us. Our soul will not find true rest until it rests in God. It is when we delight in Him that we are given the true desires of our hearts. In Him, we find complete contentment, satisfaction and peace.

Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Desires of Your Heart
Desires of Your Heart

This Scripture does not mean that we delight in the Lord in order to get everything we think we want. Rather, when we truly delight ourselves in the Lord, we find peace and fulfillment in Him. As we seek the Lord, His desires become our desires.

God may choose to bless us with many earthly and material treasures which do bring us enjoyment, but those things are only a glimpse of the true satisfaction that is found in eternal treasure. Our hearts’ deepest longings can only be satisfied when we find rest through Jesus. Until we surrender our lives to Him, we will be restless, chasing what we think we desire and always longing for something more.

The Glue That Holds Us Together

Thankful for the glue that holds us together after 31 years
Thankful for the glue that holds us together after 31 years

My husband and I celebrate thirty-one years of marriage today. It seems like only yesterday that we were two kids starting our adventure together but at the same time seems like we’ve been together forever.

We’ve been through a lot. We’ve experienced for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. We’ve laughed, cried, celebrated, mourned, embraced and fought.

Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. In fact, it hasn’t always been easy. We haven’t always agreed. There have been times that we’ve hurt each other. We’ve seen each other at our very worst. On rare occasions, we’ve threatened to part ways.

Yet, here we are, thirty-one years later with a marriage that is stronger than ever. How did we make it this far? We made a commitment to each other and to God, and we are not willing to break it no matter how difficult things get.

For thirty-one years, God has been the glue that holds us together through the good, the bad and the ugly. As we relied on God through the difficult times, He taught us what true love is.

True love is more than a feeling. True love is an action. It’s choosing to love someone even when they’re unlovable. God has taught us to love each other with the same love that Jesus has for us. The perfect love of Jesus is described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Jesus loves us with that kind of love. He loved us when we were sinful and evil. We deserved death. Yet He took on the punishment for our sin and died in our place so that we could be forgiven and have eternal life with Him in heaven. We do not deserve His love, but He loves us anyway. This is the love that we must love everyone with. This is the love that makes a marriage work.

This is something we didn’t really understand when we were married back in 1987. But as we each grew in our relationships with Christ, His love, His ways, His plans, His calling and His purpose for us became clearer.

Together, we have learned to work as a team with God as the coach. And our love for Him and for each other grows deeper and deeper as time goes by.

God has blessed us through the years in ways far greater than we ever could have asked or imagined. He has blessed us with far more than we need and far more than we deserve.

I am thankful for the wonderful memories that we share, but I am also thankful for the difficult times and the struggles that we have overcome. I am thankful for a God who gives us mercy, grace, wisdom and a love that endures. I am thankful for a godly husband who loves me at my worst and a God who continues to be the glue that holds us together.